Donald Miller has this thought in his book, Scary Close: do you want to impress someone or do you want to connect with them?
Love is vulnerable. Love gives up control. You can't control your image, hiding all that's less than perfect so you appear as impressive as possible. You can't control the other person, like Terry Crews is saying.
LOVE IS TERRIFYING.
People are messy.
I know Crews is specifically addressing what he sees in modern masculinity, but I think this can be a pretty great critique of the church too. We're to love those in the family of Christ and those who are far from it.
What does our love look like? Does it seek to control? Is it really love then?